Lack of Sexual Desire

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Frigidity (Lack of sexual desire)

Is it common

  • An estimate of 20% of the general population do suffer from this problem.
  • This problem is common in women.

What causes decreased sexual desire The sexual desire depends upon many factors such as

  • Age
  • Person’s self esteem
  • Person’s sexual experiences
  • Person’s understanding towards sex
  • Person’s sexual and non sexual relationship with his / her partner.
  • Interpersonal factors like marital discord (as a expression of hostility towards partner).
  • Availability of time and space
  • Presence of stress, anxiety, depression, etc.
  • Fear of pregnancy
  • Homosexual impulses can affect heterosexual desire.
  • Prolonged abstinence from sex
  • Presence of physical disability
  • Smoking and alcoholism
  • Certain medical condition like diabetes mellitus.
  • Psychiatric conditions like, anxiety disorder, major depression, schizophrenia.

The problem

  • Persons with this problem have no interest in sexual activity.
  • Some may develop fear about sexual act and sexual organs.
  • There is decrease in or absence of sexual fantasies or desire for sexual activity.
  • There is decrease in frequency of intercourse.
  • Women may complain of dryness of vagina.
  • This may be situational i.e. one has decreased sexual desire with his or her regular partner or spouse.
  • This causes significant distress to the patient.
  • This may be associated with anxiety or depression.

What is the remedy

  • ¬†First of all look out for any medical illness. Consult your family physician and feel free to discuss your sexual problems.
  • Stop alcohol. Alcohol increases the sexual desire initially, but in the long term it affects the sexual life adversely.
  • Some individuals have unrealistic expectations and they often complain of decreased sexual desire despite having perfectly normal sexual life.
  • One should be aware of the fact that there is normal age related decrease in sexual desire
  • Once the medical condition is excluded it is always advisable to look back into the other factors that affect the sexual desire such as stress, etc.
  • Improve communication with your partner. Spend some more time with your spouse and try to express your sexual and non sexual problems openly.
  • If the problem persists, feel free to consult your physician or a psychiatrist.

Whom to consult

  • If the person is also suffering from any other medical illness (for example hypertension, liver disease, etc.) it is always best to visit a physician.
  • In case the person has no medical illness it is always advisable to consult a psychiatrist.